How To Let Go

Who Must You Forgive To Become Successful

There are four people you need to forgive if you are serious about changing your life and learning how to live in the now.

 First, forgive your parents: living or dead.
You must forgive them for absolutely every "mistake" they every made in raising you.
At the very least you should be grateful to them for giving you life.
If you are happy to be alive then you can forgive them for everything else.
Then let go of it and never complain about them again.

 

Who To Forgive: People from past marriages or relationships

These relationships can be so intense and so threatening to your feelings of self worth that you can be angry and unforgiving to those people for years.
Every relationship is a two way street so you do have to understand that you were at least partially responsible for how the relationship turned out.
Have the confidence to take on your personal responsibility and admit that responsibility, then forgive the other person and let him/her go.
You need to actually say it out loud "I forgive _____  for what he/she did and I will him/her well."
Each time you say this the negative emotion connected with that memory will diminish and soon be gone forever.

Who To Forgive: Everyone who has ever hurt you

Completely let them go, out of your life.
Forgive every boss, business partner, friend, family member, crook, or betrayer that has every caused you any type of grief.
Completely wipe the slate clean and remove it.  Forgive in order to forget.
Say out loud “I forgive him/her for everything, and I wish him/her well.”
Repeat this statement each time you think of the person or situation until the negative feelings are gone.  

Who To Forgive: Yourself 

You absolutely must forgive yourself for every silly, senseless, wicked, brainless, thoughtless or cruel thing you have ever done or said.
Stop carrying these past mistakes around with you, that was then and this is now.  The past must be only a point of reference, not a point of preference.
When you did those things in the past that you still feel badly about, you were not the person you are today.
At that time, you were a different person, younger and less experienced. Stop beating yourself up for something that occurred in the past that you cannot change.
Just say, “I forgive myself for every mistake I ever made.  I am a thoroughly good person and I am going to have a wonderful future.”
Whenever you think of that event or situation, just repeat, “I forgive myself completely.”
And then get on with your life.
Focus on the future rather than the past and don’t look back. Look at where you are going rather than where you have been.

   

Your goal is to free yourself, to regain your peace of mind, and to get on with the wonderful life that lies ahead of you.

 

 

 

 

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